May 12th, 2009

ENFJ Personality

The Giver

As an ENFJ, you're primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ's people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people's skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ's motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them.

ENFJ's are so externally focused that it's especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. ENFJs tend to define their life's direction and priorities according to other people's needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It's natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other people's needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs so that they don't sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others.

ENFJ's tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted types. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals.

Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.

People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.

ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments.

In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling. They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.

ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don't understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they're forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.

ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.

ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship.

An ENFJ who has not developed their Feeling side may have difficulty making good decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision-making processes. If they have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place in the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative and controling with others.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.

Jungian functional preference ordering:

Dominant: Extraverted Feeling
Auxiliary: Introverted Intuition
Tertiary: Extraverted Sensing
Inferior: Introverted Thinking


This lists represent careers and jobs people of your type tend to enjoy doing. The job requirements are similar to the personality tendencies of your personality type. It is important to remember that this is not a list of all the jobs possible. And it is very important to remember that people can, and frequently do, fill jobs that are dissimilar to their personality... this happens all the time...and sometimes works out quite well.

recreation director
housing director
career counselor
sales trainer
travel agent
program designer
corporate/team trainer
child welfare worker
social worker (
occupational therapist
executive: small business
alcohol/drug counselor
sales manager

What makes an ENFJ tick?

The Dominant function is the judging one of Feeling. Characteristics associated with this function include:

* Makes decisions on the basis of personal values
* Is appreciative and accepting of people - enjoying company and seeking harmony
* Assesses the impact of decisions on others, being sympathetic or compassionate
* Takes a personal approach

The judging Feeling function is extraverted. That is, Feeling is used primarily to govern the outer world of actions and spoken words. The ENFJ will therefore:

* seek stable, harmonious relationships
* tend to adapt to the environment, taking on board those values that are held as important by friends and family, or society as a whole
* express the appreciation that is felt towards others
* tend to consider others' feelings before his/her own
* be sensitive to praise and criticism, and seek to conform to others' reasonable expectations

The Feeling function is primarily supported by introverted iNtuitive perception, That is, iNtuitive perception is used primarily to manage the inner world of thoughts and emotions. This will modify the way that the Feeling is directed, by:

* focusing the (outer world) Feeling on ideas and possibilities for people
* looking for meaningful relationships
* aiming to understand people, gaining insight into their personality and motivation

The classic temperament of an ENFJ is Apollonian, or Choleric, for whom a basic driving force is the search for meaning or purpose.

Mini Road Trip

Micah and I decided to make use of this rare free week together by having some "us" time. Yesterday we ran errands so we could spend today just having fun and enjoying each others' company. For us, this meant going on a road trip! We slept in, made ourselves Denver Omlettes for breakfast, then grabbed the camera and headed out on the Seward Highway. We started off being just driving down past Girdwood, taking in all the sights.

We finally pulled over at a scenic overlook and took a bunch of pictures, watching a family fish in the waters below while I attempted to put in my contact in my sore and hurting eye.

My right eye, and only my right, has been giving me trouble for a while now. I'll be fine for a while and then out of the blue I won't be able to put a contact in my eye. I really need an eye exam, new contacts, and a pair of back-up glasses. But all that cost $$ we're trying to save right now.

After all that we headed back to Girdwood, driving around the town a bit before heading farther down the road toward to Crow Creek Mine, which was supposed to have some cool historic buildings and such. We bumped and jostled our way down 4 miles of rough dirt roads, filled with chuckholes and rocks. Let me tell you, not having a 4x4 almost makes your teeth get knocked out of your head, but if you don't have 4x4 for AWD, I tell you, Xterra is the way to go. Between their height, suspension, and sheer strength and maneuverability, my baby took to those roads like a duck to water. For 7 minutes, it was able to stop being a city car and instead live life like an Xterra is supposed to live.

Of course, once we actually got to the mine, it was closed. Of course. So we jostled our way back to the main road and headed towards the Highway before pulling off at the shopping center there by the Seward Hwy. There is a little ice cream shop there that Micah and I stop at nearly every time we're out that way. It's way overpriced by really really yummy. He had a local ice cream, Glacier, which was ginger ice cream with dashes of cinnamon. Meanwhile, I had the fried ice cream dipped in chocolate. MMmm. We sat outside in the sun, eating our ice cream, letting it drip down our chins, while watching a father and son play with their red bone hound dog. Beautiful dog, let me tell you.

After the ice cream, Micah and I headed the car towards Anchorage and drove until we saw a place we wanted to stop. Driving along, we saw some water off to the side and as we passed we realized that it was a waterfall! "Fall Creek Falls" to be exact, which is ironic since that is the name of a place down in TN as well.

We turned around, after stopping at another place, and headed back to the falls. I took some pictures while Micah climbed out on the rocks in his new water/hiking shoes. I was taking a picture when all of a sudden a voice said, "It's beautiful, isn't it?" --- I nearly jumped out of my skin! I whirled around and there was this guy standing there, looking at the waterfall. He realized that he scared me half to death and apologized, going on to comment about the waterfall. I made polite conversations as he complimented Micah on his climbing ability and then promptly proceeded to climb up after him! I was smart and took the trail. :P I went up and meet Micah where he was talking to the man, who was named Bill, about the waterfall and the area. It turned out that the Bill and his wife had just moved back after being away from Alaska for 10 years, and he couldn't get enough of being outside. He then noticed my taking pictures and asked if, since I was a photographer, if I could send him some of the pictures.


He shelled out $20 to cover the printing and postage costs, and then had us take some pictures of him by the falls before he headed back down to the car to get us his address and contact information.

Man. A business card would really come in handy right about then!

After the guy left, Micah and I made sure to get some really good pictures for the guy, who was apparently very trusting. We're going to print them out in 5x7s for him, and maybe throw in a few extras of other shots from earlier in the day. And we'll be sure to include a flyer for [m.] Photography. A little publicity never hurts...

I must say, that is the oddest place we've ever been hired. :)

Well.. I'd better wrap this up. Micah is wanting to go to bed.

Let's see--- we hit up another place or two before ending up at Beluga Point, but by then I was too tired to take pictures, must less climb out on any rocks. We decided to keep Beluga Point for another day.

Once we got home, Micah filled out Fasfa stuff while I made mmm mmm mmm Momma's Chili. Yes, it has to have the mmm mmm mmm in front of it. Then Micah and I straightened up a bit, watched the Heroes Season Finale, and then played a few rounds of Nazi Zombies on Call of Duty 5. We made it all the way to round 11!!!! (That's hard, in case anyone was wondering) We've finally worked out a strategy, so yeah.

Alright. Bedtime. Love to all. Happy spring.